by Eric Santillan I am reposting this because men of hope are needed now more than ever in our history. I read the essay Date a Man Who Dreams the other day and I was inspired to write this because I feel there is something greater than dreams. And that is hope. Date a man … Continue reading Date a Man of Hope
Will Smith on Parenting (Trevor Noah Interview)
This is a beautiful (and funny!) and deep interview of Will Smith by Trevor Noah. They discuss several topics, but I’d like to highlight two important things: Losing our sense of what we SHOULD be or what we OUGHT to be (and losing our fear of other people’s expectations) is one of the greatest (and … Continue reading Will Smith on Parenting (Trevor Noah Interview)
The Four Horsemen of Relationships: Predicting Divorce
In a landmark study mentioned in the Malcolm Gladwell book, BLINK, a psychologist, John Gottman studied hundreds of couples and thin-sliced [ref] Thinslicing has been described by Malcolm Gladwell as our ability to gauge what is really important from a very narrow period of experience. In other words, this is an idea that spontaneous decisions are often as good as, or even better than‚ carefully planned and considered ones.[/ref] one hour each of a random conversation between the two. The study's findings were startling: by studying that thin-slice of conversation you can predict with a 95% accuracy who was going to divorce or not. Gottman did this by extricating patterns of behavior--verbal and non-verbal cues, facial expression, heart rates, and fidget counts (how often and to what extent one or both of the couples fidget in their chair). He found out that what happens in just that hour of conversation is sacramental of where the whole relationship is and is predictive of where the relationship is going.
Gain the Whole World and Not Lose Your Soul
When you have found your happiness, ironically that is when the real trouble begins. That is when the real battle, as it were, for your soul starts. Life is not as easy and as simple as forsaking the world and gaining your soul anymore. Our life in the marketplace and the world of work points us to the possibility of great success and the potential to do great, life-giving and meaningful work.
Work from Home Tips in the Age of COVID-19
It has happened. For so many years, many companies have debated, hemmed and hawed whether to allow their people to work from home. And then the coronavirus made the decision for them. Finally, home has become the new office. You've probably heard numerous tips on how to ace this whole process of making your home your office. Don't … Continue reading Work from Home Tips in the Age of COVID-19
The Husband’s Manifesto
I wrote The Boyfriend's Manifesto some years back. This is its followup. It took some time to write this because I honestly felt I'm not an expert at being a husband. A lot of people have been at this longer and have gone through much more. But I also can't deny that I've learned several … Continue reading The Husband’s Manifesto
#44: Home
Home is where we come as we are: "Home is life's undress rehearsal, its backroom, its dressing room." Because it is life's dressing room, it is also the place where we prepare ourselves for the stage. In a very real sense, we are who we are because of the homes we experienced in our lives, … Continue reading #44: Home
#38: Protect Me From Myself
Protect Me From Myself Eric Santillan Lord, protect me from myself. From my selfishness From my unnecessary fears From the propensity to protect myself From my insecurities From my imagination From thinking that the life I’m living is not enough From thinking that the life I’m living is enough From my discontent From my angst … Continue reading #38: Protect Me From Myself
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