We tend to go through our days with our noses to the grindstone, doing tasks, getting distracted, jumping from one thing to the next. Go to sleep tired, repeat the next day. Our days become an endless cycle of getting stuff done and getting through to the next day (especially during this pandemic!). What would … Continue reading Three Practices to Celebrate Your Day
Every day we make decisions that shape our destiny. Think about it, when we look back at the last 10 years of our lives, we would probably see real TURNING POINTS. We have made life-changing, destiny-altering decisions; decisions that are so important that if we had made a completely different one, our lives would have been completely different. I have about a couple of that.
When life is shaking us up and we’re feeling stressed … it can be tough to feel resilient. Resilience helps us to deal with the chaos and overwhelm … but how to we create it when we feel like we’re underwater? The first step is to remove things that are adding unnecessary stress. The second … Continue reading First Two Steps to Creating Resilience
I’ve come to realize that smart people are very good at creating super persuasive arguments for why the shouldn’t do the thing they’re fearing doing. This past week, I’ve worked with half a dozen intelligent people who have convinced themselves to give in to their resistance, over and over. They’re persuasive, convincing people, and when … Continue reading How to Not Believe Your Ultra-Persuasive Rationalizations
Our feelings are not our identity—they do not define us, and they’re definitely not our destiny. To be obsessed about our own feelings is not to be able to look outside ourselves and take on the shoes of another person. A psychologist (for the life of me, I forgot who it was!) once said that … Continue reading Our Feelings Are Not Who We Are
Why do we get angry or frustrated or disappointed in other people in our lives? Be honest — it happens to all of us, right? Other people can seem rude, frustrating, untrustworthy, inconsiderate, hurtful. And while there is no excuse for abusive or hurtful behavior, a lot of the time, the real problem isn’t with … Continue reading When Your Expectations of Others is Making You Frustrated
by Eric Santillan In high school or college, first year students are called Freshmen, second years are called Sophomores, those in third are called Juniors; and those in fourth are called Seniors. I could understand the words "Freshmen", "Junior" and "Senior". But what does Sophomore mean? For a while, I thought Sophomore meant "second year". … Continue reading Sophomores of Life
Contemplating on how I want to live recently, I became clear in the last few months that I needed to create more space in my life. My life is full, which is a wonderful thing — I have lots of people in my life who care about me, want to spend time with me, want to … Continue reading Create a More Spacious Life