Our psychology forms our spirituality, and our spirituality forms our psychology. Many years ago, in my past life as a Jesuit, our formation was called psycho-spiritual. The concept here is that we begin with who we are, where we are, what we've gone through. And it is this person -- this whole person -- that … Continue reading How Psychology and Spirituality are Two Sides of the Same Coin
We tend to go through our days with our noses to the grindstone, doing tasks, getting distracted, jumping from one thing to the next. Go to sleep tired, repeat the next day. Our days become an endless cycle of getting stuff done and getting through to the next day (especially during this pandemic!). What would … Continue reading Three Practices to Celebrate Your Day
Every day we make decisions that shape our destiny. Think about it, when we look back at the last 10 years of our lives, we would probably see real TURNING POINTS. We have made life-changing, destiny-altering decisions; decisions that are so important that if we had made a completely different one, our lives would have been completely different. I have about a couple of that.
When life is shaking us up and we’re feeling stressed … it can be tough to feel resilient. Resilience helps us to deal with the chaos and overwhelm … but how to we create it when we feel like we’re underwater? The first step is to remove things that are adding unnecessary stress. The second … Continue reading First Two Steps to Creating Resilience
One of the hardest things to swallow in the Gospels is the teaching about turning the other cheek. In Matthew 5:39 Jesus says, “But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.” A mind-blowing concept indeed. Is he serious? … Continue reading Turning the Other Cheek
I’ve come to realize that smart people are very good at creating super persuasive arguments for why the shouldn’t do the thing they’re fearing doing. This past week, I’ve worked with half a dozen intelligent people who have convinced themselves to give in to their resistance, over and over. They’re persuasive, convincing people, and when … Continue reading How to Not Believe Your Ultra-Persuasive Rationalizations
Our feelings are not our identity—they do not define us, and they’re definitely not our destiny. To be obsessed about our own feelings is not to be able to look outside ourselves and take on the shoes of another person. A psychologist (for the life of me, I forgot who it was!) once said that … Continue reading Our Feelings Are Not Who We Are
Why do we get angry or frustrated or disappointed in other people in our lives? Be honest — it happens to all of us, right? Other people can seem rude, frustrating, untrustworthy, inconsiderate, hurtful. And while there is no excuse for abusive or hurtful behavior, a lot of the time, the real problem isn’t with … Continue reading When Your Expectations of Others is Making You Frustrated