I’ve come to realize that smart people are very good at creating super persuasive arguments for why the shouldn’t do the thing they’re fearing doing. This past week, I’ve worked with half a dozen intelligent people who have convinced themselves to give in to their resistance, over and over. They’re persuasive, convincing people, and when … Continue reading How to Not Believe Your Ultra-Persuasive Rationalizations
Our Feelings Are Not Who We Are
Our feelings are not our identity—they do not define us, and they’re definitely not our destiny. To be obsessed about our own feelings is not to be able to look outside ourselves and take on the shoes of another person. A psychologist (for the life of me, I forgot who it was!) once said that … Continue reading Our Feelings Are Not Who We Are
When Your Expectations of Others is Making You Frustrated
Why do we get angry or frustrated or disappointed in other people in our lives? Be honest — it happens to all of us, right? Other people can seem rude, frustrating, untrustworthy, inconsiderate, hurtful. And while there is no excuse for abusive or hurtful behavior, a lot of the time, the real problem isn’t with … Continue reading When Your Expectations of Others is Making You Frustrated
Sophomores of Life
by Eric Santillan In high school or college, first year students are called Freshmen, second years are called Sophomores, those in third are called Juniors; and those in fourth are called Seniors. I could understand the words "Freshmen", "Junior" and "Senior". But what does Sophomore mean? For a while, I thought Sophomore meant "second year". … Continue reading Sophomores of Life
Create a More Spacious Life
Contemplating on how I want to live recently, I became clear in the last few months that I needed to create more space in my life. My life is full, which is a wonderful thing — I have lots of people in my life who care about me, want to spend time with me, want to … Continue reading Create a More Spacious Life
Stretch Before You Leap
Making decisions--the life-changing kind--is one of the hardest things to do. It is never easy to make changes in your life. As humans, we have the capacity to make do, to adapt, to get used to things. And according to Newton’s Law of Inertia, any change in life needs more energy and force than just … Continue reading Stretch Before You Leap
Religion as Religare
The algorithm of what’s happening in the world today: Faith - Vulnerability or Mystery = Extremism. Brene Brown It’s when we use our faith/religion as our main mouthpiece— a way to bulldoze and bully other people’s beliefs that we do what goes against religion in its most basic essence. Religion, I was told in high … Continue reading Religion as Religare
God Doesn’t Hate Us, If He Did He Wouldn’t Have Made Our Hearts So Brave
The title is from a movie I saw a year ago. The Feast of Love is a movie about the different facets of love, and answers real life questions about suffering and fear and hope.
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