"Experience is not what happens to a man. It is what a man does with what happens to him." Aldous Huxley https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tDFQVLHdcXw&feature=youtu.be One idea connected to relationships and abundance is uncluttering. Uncluttering is a term coined in the 1930s to mean “removing clutter from your physical surroundings”, to make what you have and where you are neat and orderly. I have connected it … Continue reading From Bitter to Better: Dealing with Life’s Baggages
Life as a Conscious Practice
Originally posted in ZenHabits.Netby Leo Baubata ‘Everything is practice.’ Pele When we learn a martial art, or ballet, or gymnastics, or soccer … we consciously practice movements in a deliberate way, repeatedly. By conscious, repeated practice, we become good at those movements. Our entire lives are like this, but we’re often less conscious of the … Continue reading Life as a Conscious Practice
Date a Man of Hope
by Eric Santillan I am reposting this because men of hope are needed now more than ever in our history. I read the essay Date a Man Who Dreams the other day and I was inspired to write this because I feel there is something greater than dreams. And that is hope. Date a man … Continue reading Date a Man of Hope
Will Smith on Parenting (Trevor Noah Interview)
This is a beautiful (and funny!) and deep interview of Will Smith by Trevor Noah. They discuss several topics, but I’d like to highlight two important things: Losing our sense of what we SHOULD be or what we OUGHT to be (and losing our fear of other people’s expectations) is one of the greatest (and … Continue reading Will Smith on Parenting (Trevor Noah Interview)
The Four Horsemen of Relationships: Predicting Divorce
In a landmark study mentioned in the Malcolm Gladwell book, BLINK, a psychologist, John Gottman studied hundreds of couples and thin-sliced [ref] Thinslicing has been described by Malcolm Gladwell as our ability to gauge what is really important from a very narrow period of experience. In other words, this is an idea that spontaneous decisions are often as good as, or even better than‚ carefully planned and considered ones.[/ref] one hour each of a random conversation between the two. The study's findings were startling: by studying that thin-slice of conversation you can predict with a 95% accuracy who was going to divorce or not. Gottman did this by extricating patterns of behavior--verbal and non-verbal cues, facial expression, heart rates, and fidget counts (how often and to what extent one or both of the couples fidget in their chair). He found out that what happens in just that hour of conversation is sacramental of where the whole relationship is and is predictive of where the relationship is going.
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