The Love Tank

Since my kids were born, I have always felt a very strong connection to them, one that only a mother would enjoy (sorry, Eric ). This connection is what I cherish the most in our relationship, and it is also the reason why I’m a strong believer in Respectful Parenting practices – because this approach … Continue reading The Love Tank

The Best (But Most Counter-Intuitive) Tip When Going through a Marriage Crisis

If you’re going through a marriage problem right now, or have just gone through one, or are going through a major life transition, you might want to read this. The Context: Spirituality. I would like to begin by pointing out that the lens through which we discuss crisis is through spirituality. Not religion, but spirituality. … Continue reading The Best (But Most Counter-Intuitive) Tip When Going through a Marriage Crisis

Five Great Tips to Deal with The Seven Year Itch

Previously, I talked about rebirths and change in another article (check that out here!). This time, I want to discuss the rebirths and changes that happen as part of being a couple — especially couples who go through and have to deal with the Seven Year Itch. What tips can help us deal with this difficult time? Life … Continue reading Five Great Tips to Deal with The Seven Year Itch

The Four Horsemen of Relationships: Predicting Divorce

In a landmark study mentioned in the Malcolm Gladwell book, BLINK, a psychologist, John Gottman studied hundreds of couples and thin-sliced [ref] Thinslicing has been described by Malcolm Gladwell as our ability to gauge what is really important from a very narrow period of experience. In other words, this is an idea that spontaneous decisions are often as good as, or even better than‚ carefully planned and considered ones.[/ref] one hour each of a random conversation between the two. The study's findings were startling: by studying that thin-slice of conversation you can predict with a 95% accuracy who was going to divorce or not. Gottman did this by extricating patterns of behavior--verbal and non-verbal cues, facial expression, heart rates, and fidget counts (how often and to what extent one or both of the couples fidget in their chair). He found out that what happens in just that hour of conversation is sacramental of where the whole relationship is and is predictive of where the relationship is going.

PWinQ #229: Small Things That Matter

It's been 229 (of 365) Days since we started this journey of #PrayersWrappedInQuotes!⁠ ⁠🙏 🕯️ REFLECTION GUIDE below ⬇️⁠⁠😊 as you read this! Your day is going to be awesome after spending the next 10 mins reflecting!⁠⁠🕯️: Today I invite you to do the following:⁠⁠1) Think of 2-3 people you have not talked to in a … Continue reading PWinQ #229: Small Things That Matter